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Many times, during childhood we suffer from complexes and fears that over time become unhealed wounds.
In the complex world of emotions, overcoming childhood trauma is a challenge. However, not facing them can trigger inappropriate or extreme behavior patterns.
Psychologist María Elizabeth Gómez, highlighting the impact that childhood experiences can have on adulthood, shares concepts on how to address and overcome phobias and complexes rooted from an early age.
What the expert says
From the beginning, the psychologist highlights the importance of establishing healthy bonds during childhood, since these foundations will be fundamental for social and emotional development throughout life.
Likewise, he points out that although human beings learn in many ways, the easiest and most intuitive is through the example of our attachment figures (parents, grandparents).
Thus, childhood experiences accompany us into adulthood, manifesting in forms such as phobias, complexes, traumas or emotional wounds.
“For this reason, we normally find people who are afraid of situations that others see as easy, such as criticism, failure, animals, etc.
And in the same way we find wounds such as fear of abandonment and rejection,” highlights Gómez.
Any of them are the result of fears that were not adequately managed in the first years of life, which can lead to disproportionate reactions.
By this it means that the response to a fearful scenario is excessive, to the point that it can cause physical discomfort such as dizziness, vomiting, low blood pressure, among others, triggering psychological consequences in the person.
How to overcome complexes acquired in childhood?
To all this, Gómez offers a light of hope by highlighting that it is possible to overcome these challenges.
To do this, he indicates that the first thing to understand is that the past is not to blame, so it is better to avoid phrases like “this happened to me when I was little.” If we do so, we are limiting our ability to be better, locking ourselves in a mental cage that will not allow us to evolve.
Instead, it proposes to look for the cause and reflect on past experiences, going so far as to seek a new perspective on them, as it emphasizes that the resignification of the past can be a catalyst for personal growth and overcoming deep-seated fears.
At the same time, it emphasizes the importance of establishing links with the present and taking care of both physical and emotional well-being.
To conclude, Gómez suggests that seeking psychological help is an essential step toward resolving these problems.
“Professional help can teach us to manage our emotions and find defense mechanisms appropriate to our reality,” he concludes.