She realized that reacting immediately caused the bad guys to panic and run away. That was a “victory” for me, so she had more confidence in herself and avoided psychological damage.
“I was angry for a few days but wasn’t hurt like you guys. I couldn’t say it, didn’t dare to react. I hope my teacher’s lesson will be an experience for mothers, sisters, and teachers to teach. protect my children,” Ms. Minh confided.
Silence is fertile ground for green-bearded lovers. Fear and shame prevent many children from speaking up and reacting when being harassed.
Even scarier, after being sexually harassed, many children can be “harmed a second time” when adults “silence” them and do not want them to mention the incident.
Sharing at a seminar on preventing child sexual abuse in Ho Chi Minh City not long ago, Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, Ho Chi Minh City branch of the National Academy of Public Administration, said she had encountered many extremely painful cases of children being sexually abused. heart sunk in silence.
Some children were abused by their paternal cousins and sexually abused by their tenants. I kept that painful memory secret until one day I mustered up the courage to tell my mother, naming those people. But what her mother told her at that time was: “Be quiet, don’t tell anyone.”
Having to stay silent in front of an abuser can lead to lifelong psychological damage to the victim. There is a case where Ms. Thuy said she was a grandmother, but “for decades it was like hanging a stone in front of her chest that could not be taken down.”
This expert believes that Asian people have many complexes when it comes to this issue. They believe that revealing compromised information means they will lose value, be bad, and unworthy…
Experts share at a topic about child sexual abuse (Photo: Hoai Nam).
Many people don’t even think of themselves as victims, but think that they are at fault and that they deserve it.
Psychologists also emphasize that when children are young and not strong enough to protect themselves, most of all, parents and teachers need to be their companions, giving them the strength and encouragement not to stay silent. , to dare to speak up against bad people.
A clear attitude towards bad things and the encouragement of “having a teacher here” like Ms. Minh’s teacher last year can save the lives of many students.