Al Bilad newspaper Provoking others gives a feeling of happiness…a study shows – 2024-06-13 11:56:53

Believe it or not, anger and the love of provoking others make you feel happy, and according to scientists at the University of Michigan, the code for this negative behavior stems from a rise in the hormone testosterone, which helps you feel happy.

Dr. Joseph Girgis, a consultant psychiatrist at the American Psychiatric and Neurological Center, says this during his interview with “Al-Sabah” on Sky News Arabia:

• If the provocative person is aware that his behavior provokes others and continues to act in this manner, this clearly reflects a defect in his behavior, thoughts, upbringing style, and many other aspects.
• If the provocative person is unaware of his provocative behavior, he is to some extent excusable, however, those around him must make efforts to point out or explain that there is something wrong with his behavior.
• The provoked individual’s feeling of satisfaction and happiness when he undertakes the provocation indicates the possibility of a psychological disorder, and this matter may be related to problems and negative experiences dating back to childhood.
• The provoked person’s feelings may extend from feeling happy and powerful, to evoking a sense of success and a desire for revenge.
• A person repeating provocative and inappropriate comments while not realizing that others are upset by this behavior reflects a problem with his ability to understand and interpret the body language of others.
• The role of the people surrounding and close to the provocative personality is extremely important in dealing with it in a thoughtful and distinguished manner. It is recommended to try to clarify the provocative behaviors of this personality, and support them in an intelligent and constructive manner.
• Mastering self-control is a vital skill that an individual must acquire, and to achieve this goal, the individual must recognize symptoms that indicate feelings of distress, agitation, or anger, such as increased heart rate, excessive sweating, increased volume, and dilated pupils.
• Awareness and deep understanding of an individual’s inner state and emotions is an essential factor, through identifying feelings of dissatisfaction or discomfort in their early stages.
• The individual can take effective steps to manage his interactions before they escalate into anger. This approach requires inward looking, introspection and self-awareness as the person becomes attuned to internal signs and learns how to control them proactively.
• It is necessary to set clear boundaries in dealing with others, appropriate to the nature of each relationship. Each type of relationship has specific foundations and rules through which it is dealt with. We must also pay special attention to our relationship with ourselves and set appropriate boundaries in this context.
• A person who finds his happiness in provoking others is a loser. He loses many opportunities in his life, loses his relationships, loses love, suffers from a decline in success, and loses many other things.
• Once we realize that this person is causing us negative feelings and realize that fact, it becomes necessary to try to stay away from him as much as possible.
• If a motivated person can regularly review himself and evaluate his relationships with others and how to improve them, this will definitely lead to greater happiness in his life.